What are your Patterns? How Awareness is Key to Shifting your Life Completely

Are you aware of your subconscious patterns? This is something that I have been working on for years and still feel as though it is an area I can continuously improve. So much of what we do, how we act and behave comes from subconscious patterns that we learned from childhood.

Take a few moments to think about where you are feeling stuck in your life. Are there deeper feelings or patterns that are holding you back? For me there are two patterns or sets of beliefs that continue to challenge my growth. I need to make a really conscious effort to be aware of them and to stop my brain from going down that self-pity and self-doubt hole that many of us find ourselves stuck in. The first is the feeling of not being good enough and second is the fear of scarcity.

The more I explored the feeling of not being good enough, the more I realized this thought pattern spread into so many areas of my life. I went to a retreat at the beginning of my divorce journey to deal with my traumas that were holding me back. When I was there, I realized that the deep underlying hurt and pain that I was constantly feeling was that I was not good enough. Just becoming consciously aware of that struggle and thought pattern has helped me so much in my growth and empowerment.

When those feelings arise, and they still do almost a decade later, I am generally able to reset and shift my thinking more quickly and with more ease. If I cannot reset quickly there are a few strategies that I turn to. First, get curious about why those feelings are popping up. Second, consciously reset your thinking to a more positive affirmation. If you struggle with resetting affirmations to a more positive outlook I encourage you to get Louise Hay’s book, “You can Heal Your Life.” In it she has many affirmations to shift your conscious mind. For example, one affirmation that I constantly come back to is, “I claim my power and move beyond all limitations.” I love this one because it helps me reset and think from the place of power. Truly, my place of power is always in the current moment. Another strategy is to go out and do something that you know will help you to feel better. For me it is going for a run, going to yoga or getting out in nature, specifically the mountains or water.

When we begin to realize the importance of the current moment, that is really when our lives begin to shift. You have zero ability to change what happened in the past other than changing how you view it. You are the only one who has power over your thoughts. Our thoughts and beliefs control so much of our lives. So start to become really aware of your thoughts because it is true what they say, “thoughts become things.”

The second overarching pattern that creeps in for me is the general feeling of scarcity and of not feeling good about receiving from others. In my head I used to think it is better to give than to receive. What I have learned over the years though is that we cannot always be giving. If you give and give and give you will have nothing left for yourself. In order to be the best version of yourself you need to have the ability to receive from others and have gratitude for it. Now whenever I am feeling bad about the “lack” of abundance in my life, I have to constantly shift my thinking to “it is safe for me to graciously receive.” Being a very giving person this is a huge awareness and perspective shift for me. Yet I know I need to work through it because if I do not then my pattern of scarcity will continue. Both Louise Hay and Bob Proctor talk about abundance and how in order to attract abundance we have to live from a place of gratitude and to act as though what we want has already come to fruition.

It is easy to go down the rabbit hole of lack when inflation is on the rise and gas prices are through the roof. Here is where your power comes in. You have the power to focus on that stressor. Or you have the power to focus on the amazing things that are already in your life and the amazing ways you are going to continue to build and grow the life of your dreams. Be so confident that the life of your dreams is your reality so that gas prices are not something you ever have to worry about.

Bob Proctor says if you can visualize what you want in your mind then you can “have it in your hand.” The trick with this is you have to stay focused on your vision and goals and not get sidetracked by distractions like inflation and gas prices to take your focus off of the end goal.

What is it that you truly want in life? Whenever stressors arise take a deep breath and visualize the life of your dreams. Take a few moments to just focus on your visualization as if you are already living in that reality. Don’t let the daily stressors of life take you away from your vision and goal. When stressors pop up and they will, consciously bring your attention back to gratitude and abundance. This constant reset can take awhile to learn. When your new pattern becomes shifting your focus back to your goal constantly then your life will completely begin to shift.

We are the only ones who have the power to make our lives better and the only ones who live in our minds. If we want to live a more fulfilling and empowered life then we need to start with living a more fulfilling and empowered life inside our minds.

Are you feeling more aware of your mind and your patterns? What pattern do you need to shift? If you are struggling with your mind and patterns and want to live a more empowered life then follow my blog and social media. My, “Empower Your Life,” course registration information will be released next week!

The Power of Gratitude

Do you know you can literally rewire your brain by consciously listing 3 things you are grateful for each day? Our thoughts have so much power over the way we think and act. There are many studies on the power of the mind and how people have literally thought themselves into curing their cancer or learning to walk again. I find this completely fascinating. There needs to be way more research into the power of the mind and how we can tap into its true potential to help become the highest versions of ourselves.

If you are looking for ways to heal and empower your life the very first place to start is within yourself. You can easily start by practicing gratitude daily and really becoming conscious of the thoughts you think. Louise Hay is one of my favorite authors on mindfulness and healing your life. She literally wrote the book, “You Can Heal Your Life.” One resource that I always come back to when I am struggling is this book. She states, “every thought we think is creating our future. Each one of us creates experiences by our thoughts and our feelings, the thoughts we think and the words we speak create our experiences.” When you begin to come aware that your thoughts create what’s going on in your life then you truly have the power to change things.

In a meditation that I used to do daily by Louise Hay, she talks about how even kings and queens did not have access to modern plumbing like we do today so to be grateful for your plumbing. This always makes me laugh but at the same time I always come back to that idea and think ‘wow” it really is amazing that I have running water in my home. Just having running water makes my life so much easier. I want you to take a moment to think about the water and the access you have to water. If you have running water in your home you’re one of the luckiest people on the planet so we really need to be grateful each and every day for access to water. For many people in Western Society this concept is mind-blowing because we forget about those little things that truly make our lives easier. Did you know, around 40 percent of the world doesn’t have access to a clean, reliable water source. This really puts having access clean water into perspective and how lucky we are to have it.

Do you go to bed on a full stomach? If you do and you are luckier than many, many people on the planet, so take a moment to be grateful for that. Some sources say that around 810 million people go to bed hungry each night; other sources say that nearly one in three people don’t have enough food. When you consider these numbers, no matter what’s going on in your life, you have so much to be grateful for if you go to bed on a full stomach.

When we forget these things and we focus on our problems we get more of our problems.
When we can begin to look at each situation from a place of gratitude, we will get more of those positives coming into her life. What I love about Louise Hay’s book, “You Can Heal Your Life” is that she has this giant list in it on all these different diseases, the probable cause and then a new thought pattern.

There is a new thought pattern for each and every ailment, no matter what it is that you’re struggling with. If you begin to repeat the new thought pattern then things will really change but you have to truly believe it with every ounce of your being.

So often, we get hyper focussed on the things that aren’t working out for us. When the reality is the majority of things truly are working out. If you have a home, food and access to clean water you are one of the most lucky people in the whole planet. If you want more joy and more prosperity in your life then you need to focus on the joy and prosperity that are already there. If there’s something that you want to bring into your life then you need to focus on it with the idea that you’ve already have it in your possession and vibrate that frequency. When you begin to vibrate on the frequency of gratitude more things will come into your life for you to be grateful for.

Once we truly begin to become conscious of our frequency and how our thoughts become things, then our experience completely changes. When we catch ourselves thinking a negative thought, we can begin to shift that into a positive. For example, a few years ago I got a speeding ticket and I’d already been reading about all of this stuff. Instead of thinking, “I got a speeding ticket, this is the worst.” I shifted my mindset to, “at least I live in a country where I can feel safe getting a ticket and they’re using that money to follow the rule of law in our country.”

There are so many places in the world where you have to bribe the Police Service to get out of a speeding ticket. I am lucky enough not to live in one of those countries. Another example would be when it’s raining, instead of thinking, “oh man it’s raining I want to go outside.” Shift your perspective to, “how much the Earth needs it, how much it will help things grow and how much more you’ll enjoy that beautiful day when it comes next.” These simple shifts in our conscious mind allow that higher frequency of energy to flow more easily.

On a molecular level we are all made up of atoms. Atoms are essentially space and energy vibrating on a frequency. Our conscious mind has the ability to change this frequency and we can change this frequency through gratitude. We literally have the power in our own minds to change every single cell in our bodies. When we realize this true power that we have within ourselves that we truly have the ability to heal our lives then transformation can begin. When we begin to heal from within, we have the opportunity to help others heal from within too and essentially that will spread to the planet. Every living thing is vibrating a frequency and if you can become conscious of the frequency you are vibrating then you truly have the power to change the world.

So what is it that you can be grateful for today? Even if you are having one of the hardest days of your life there are so many things that you can be grateful for and that simple conscious shift will completely shift the day. If you are struggling with your perspective and how to bring more gratitude and healing into your life, follow my blog and social media for more information on my, “Empower your Life Course,” which will be released soon.

Healing Starts With You! 

So much of our hurt and pain comes from subconscious programming that we learned as children. Much of what we each struggle with is most likely linked to generational trauma. This type of programming continues from generation to generation until someone decides to break that pattern and begins to take healing into their own hands. The only person who can break your generational programming is you.

It is time to take a really deep look into what you want to heal in your life and how you can begin to let go of the generational trauma that may be keeping you stuck in a subconscious pattern cycle. Breaking patterns is hard work so be gentle with yourself and take the time you need to really feel and reflect on the work you are doing. 

When I got divorced I started consistently going to counseling to help me navigate the struggles I was facing. I was really lucky because my work had free counseling services, which many people do not have access to. I took advantage of this service as I was determined to heal my life. One of my biggest negative feedback loops was, “I am smart, pretty, I have two university degrees and working on my third, yet how did I get myself into this mess, how was I not smart enough to see the signs?” Being the perfectionist that I am, I really struggled with not being able to “do” enough to make my marriage work. What I learned through all of my healing work was that I was approaching this and many other situations in my life the way I approach teaching, by trying to ‘fix’ everything when there are things that are not meant to be ‘fixed’ they are meant to evolve into something completely new. 

I needed a new way to approach life and my thinking around relationships. I could not ‘help’ everyone change. I could only change myself. It is like the saying, ‘I wanted to change the world so I started by changing myself and the world around me began to change.’ The first place to start changing yourself is within your own mind. 

One exercise I learned in counseling that really helped me shift my mindset was this HEAL exercise that the psychologist told me about. HEAL is an acronym for Hope, Educate, Affirm and Long-Term. Essentially when there is a situation you are really struggling with you can write out the acronym and reset your thinking. Here are two examples I wrote out years ago and am pulling from my journal in hopes that they will help you. 

HEAL Example 1

H– I hope for a home filled with love for my child to grow up in. 

E– All families are different because of their own dynamics and not all can be filled with love. This may be because they have generational trauma and they do not know how to break their patterns. 

A– I will always let my child know how much she is loved and that she belongs in our unique family 

L– I will keep working on loving myself so that I can truly love my child with all of my heart.  

HEAL Example 2

H– I hope as a parent I will always support my child. I hope parents in general will support the child they brought into the world 

E– Some parents either because of their own childhood or mental health issues will not be present for their child 

A– I will always try my best to support my child 

L– I will keep working on my gratitude and forgiveness

What I really like about this strategy is that it helps you take a step back and look at the situation you are in from a distance. Sometimes we are too close to a situation, we have blinders on and we cannot see anything but our narrow perspective which is based on our conditioning and our current emotional state. 

Are there things in your life you need to take a step back from and look at from a distance? What shifts can you make in your life by using the HEAL acronym and begin to let go of the frustrations you currently have in your life. You will be blown away at how your life will change when you begin to HEAL what is no longer serving you by replacing it with a long term vision of what you want to bring into your life. 

Are you feeling stuck and want to let go of the things that do not serve you? Stay tuned for more information on my, “Empower your Life Course.” Which will be launched this fall.