Be Open to Receiving
Do you struggle with receiving? As a very empathic person, I often have boundary issues with over giving and struggling with being willing to receive. It actually used to make me uncomfortable when someone would give me a gift, I would feel as though I needed to give or do something for them in return immediately. If you struggle with receiving like I did (and often still do) then you need to read this.
There is an abundance of opportunities for each and every one of us to both give and receive if we are open to it. If you have struggled with receiving, like me, then you can simply start with opening your mindset to be willing to receive.
Receiving can even show up in the form of a simple compliment. The next time someone gives you a compliment just say, “thank you” and be willing to completely receive the compliment. In the past, if someone gave me a compliment, I would immediately think, what can I say as a compliment in return. Through reading many books and going to a lot of therapy. I learned that it is okay to just receive a compliment without feeling the need to reciprocate immediately.
I am sure some of you think I am a bit crazy, when I talk about feeling the need to give a compliment right back or to find a way to return a favor or gift, but it honestly was a struggle for a long time and I have met others who also struggle with the same thing. If your love language is not gifts then you know exactly what I mean.
Many empaths and people pleasers view receiving help or support in any way as a burden to others. Learn to reframe this by understanding that when you allow others to give it is an act of trust and connection. It gives others the opportunity to experience the pleasure of giving.
Begin to deconstruct the guilt you feel around receiving. If you feel guilty when others do something for you begin to release the guilt by reminding yourself that healthy relationships thrive on mutual support. You also deserve attention and care that you often graciously give to others without expecting anything in return. You know the joy you feel when you give to others so give them the opportunity to do the same for you. Do you feel good when you give others a compliment? Then allow others to give you one too.
Begin to affirm for yourself that, “you are worthy of love and support,” this will help to shift your internal belief system. It will also help you learn to let go of the idea that you need to always be strong and independent. Learning to receive does not make you weak it makes you human. When you allow yourself to be vulnerable and receive you also allow for opportunities to strengthen your relationships by letting others show they care for you.
This week set the intention of being open to receiving each and every morning and just notice what shows up for you.
