What are your Patterns? How Awareness is Key to Shifting your Life Completely

Are you aware of your subconscious patterns? This is something that I have been working on for years and still feel as though it is an area I can continuously improve. So much of what we do, how we act and behave comes from subconscious patterns that we learned from childhood.

Take a few moments to think about where you are feeling stuck in your life. Are there deeper feelings or patterns that are holding you back? For me there are two patterns or sets of beliefs that continue to challenge my growth. I need to make a really conscious effort to be aware of them and to stop my brain from going down that self-pity and self-doubt hole that many of us find ourselves stuck in. The first is the feeling of not being good enough and second is the fear of scarcity.

The more I explored the feeling of not being good enough, the more I realized this thought pattern spread into so many areas of my life. I went to a retreat at the beginning of my divorce journey to deal with my traumas that were holding me back. When I was there, I realized that the deep underlying hurt and pain that I was constantly feeling was that I was not good enough. Just becoming consciously aware of that struggle and thought pattern has helped me so much in my growth and empowerment.

When those feelings arise, and they still do almost a decade later, I am generally able to reset and shift my thinking more quickly and with more ease. If I cannot reset quickly there are a few strategies that I turn to. First, get curious about why those feelings are popping up. Second, consciously reset your thinking to a more positive affirmation. If you struggle with resetting affirmations to a more positive outlook I encourage you to get Louise Hay’s book, “You can Heal Your Life.” In it she has many affirmations to shift your conscious mind. For example, one affirmation that I constantly come back to is, “I claim my power and move beyond all limitations.” I love this one because it helps me reset and think from the place of power. Truly, my place of power is always in the current moment. Another strategy is to go out and do something that you know will help you to feel better. For me it is going for a run, going to yoga or getting out in nature, specifically the mountains or water.

When we begin to realize the importance of the current moment, that is really when our lives begin to shift. You have zero ability to change what happened in the past other than changing how you view it. You are the only one who has power over your thoughts. Our thoughts and beliefs control so much of our lives. So start to become really aware of your thoughts because it is true what they say, “thoughts become things.”

The second overarching pattern that creeps in for me is the general feeling of scarcity and of not feeling good about receiving from others. In my head I used to think it is better to give than to receive. What I have learned over the years though is that we cannot always be giving. If you give and give and give you will have nothing left for yourself. In order to be the best version of yourself you need to have the ability to receive from others and have gratitude for it. Now whenever I am feeling bad about the “lack” of abundance in my life, I have to constantly shift my thinking to “it is safe for me to graciously receive.” Being a very giving person this is a huge awareness and perspective shift for me. Yet I know I need to work through it because if I do not then my pattern of scarcity will continue. Both Louise Hay and Bob Proctor talk about abundance and how in order to attract abundance we have to live from a place of gratitude and to act as though what we want has already come to fruition.

It is easy to go down the rabbit hole of lack when inflation is on the rise and gas prices are through the roof. Here is where your power comes in. You have the power to focus on that stressor. Or you have the power to focus on the amazing things that are already in your life and the amazing ways you are going to continue to build and grow the life of your dreams. Be so confident that the life of your dreams is your reality so that gas prices are not something you ever have to worry about.

Bob Proctor says if you can visualize what you want in your mind then you can “have it in your hand.” The trick with this is you have to stay focused on your vision and goals and not get sidetracked by distractions like inflation and gas prices to take your focus off of the end goal.

What is it that you truly want in life? Whenever stressors arise take a deep breath and visualize the life of your dreams. Take a few moments to just focus on your visualization as if you are already living in that reality. Don’t let the daily stressors of life take you away from your vision and goal. When stressors pop up and they will, consciously bring your attention back to gratitude and abundance. This constant reset can take awhile to learn. When your new pattern becomes shifting your focus back to your goal constantly then your life will completely begin to shift.

We are the only ones who have the power to make our lives better and the only ones who live in our minds. If we want to live a more fulfilling and empowered life then we need to start with living a more fulfilling and empowered life inside our minds.

Are you feeling more aware of your mind and your patterns? What pattern do you need to shift? If you are struggling with your mind and patterns and want to live a more empowered life then follow my blog and social media. My, “Empower Your Life,” course registration information will be released next week!

Rewriting Your Life Story: How Changing Your Perspective Changes Your Life

I want you to take a moment and think about your life. Visualize your earliest memories. What your childhood was like. Who your friends were and are. How your family interacted with each other. What your schooling experience was like and the direction you took after leaving High School. What were your first jobs, how has your career shaped you? How do you view your life now? Take a few moments to just let yourself be absorbed in these memories. 

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Now reflect on the memories that you pulled into your consciousness. Were the majority of them negative or positive? Did the most traumatizing events come to mind first or the most uplifting? When you envision your life do you view it as laced with hardship or perseverance? 

So much of what we experience in life is a product of our perspective. You can shift your life story completely just by consciously shifting your perspective. The first step is to become conscious of your version of your life story. Once you have become aware of it you are able to shift your perception of it and begin to heal and grow from your life experiences. 

We all experience trauma in different ways and we hold on to that trauma differently. The beautiful thing about life is that no matter what you have been through, you can begin to heal from it the moment you consciously decide that holding on to that trauma is no longer serving you. Our subconscious mind controls the way we think, look and act. Once you begin to understand how your subconscious mind works you can begin to shift your patterns and break free of the trauma you are holding on to that is keeping you stuck. 

All of us have experienced trauma. On a global scale, there have been many traumatic events throughout history. Some caused by other human beings and some by the forces of nature. No matter what the trauma that you have experienced, the beautiful thing about life is that as long as you are living and breathing you have the opportunity to experience the beauty and joy of this amazing world if you choose to. 

There are miracles all around us that we don’t even notice as we go about our daily lives on autopilot.  Whenever I am struggling to see the beauty in life, I recall a meditation I used to listen to daily by Louise Hay.  In meditation, she guides you to be grateful for your bathroom. I know it’s weird, but it makes sense when she states, “even kings and queens did not have the luxury of modern plumbing.”  This always makes me think about how lucky I am to have running water and plumbing in my home.  This little glimpse of gratitude can be enough to shift my mood and perspective on whatever it is that I am struggling with. You have this power within yourself too. 

One of my favorite books that I go back and read over and over again when life brings me challenges is, “You Can Heal Your Life,” by Louise Hay. This book was the jumping point to rewriting my life and getting on to a healthier and more positive path. The only one who has the power to empower your life is you. This happens by making the conscious choice to rewire your subconscious mind and as a result your autopilot will shift and your life will shift. 

Now that you have become aware of this, I want you to take a moment to reflect on your life story again. This time I want you to visualize your earliest memories from the perspective of gratitude and perseverance. What your childhood was like. Who your friends were and are. How your family interacted with each other. What your schooling experience was like and the direction you took after leaving High School. What were your first jobs, how has your career shaped you? How do you view your life now? Take a few moments to just let yourself be absorbed in these memories from the perspective of gratitude and perseverance.

After recalling the same life story from the perspective of perseverance and gratitude, how does your body feel? What is going on in your mind? How do you now feel about your life story? Has it shifted? 

Rewriting your life does not mean you go back and change what happened to you. It is about shifting from: this happened to me and has traumatized me, to: this happened to me and I learned so much from that situation. You can be grateful for your strength, ability to persevere and grow from each and every experience in life. 

The first time I ever experienced work around shifting my life story, was when I attended a retreat, run by the Hoffman Institute. It was a week-long retreat designed to help people transform their lives by changing old behavior patterns. The second time was when I was completing my kids yoga teacher training. This time I already knew that the instructor was expecting everyone to focus on the trauma they had lived through. That is exactly what happened.

Each and every person told of the hardships of their lives. I purposely told my story from the perspective of gratitude and growth.  Then after explaining that I already had experienced work designed to make us rethink our life story. Just like at Hoffman, the yoga instructor made everyone retell their story from this perspective. The energy in the room completely shifted from heaviness to a feeling of lightness and gratitude. All from the power of shifting perspective. 

So how do you rewrite your life story? You shift your perspective from hardship to gratitude and perseverance. Become conscious of the patterns you unconsciously do that are keeping you stuck. Then take that knowledge and begin to make tiny shifts in your daily activities. Your life becomes better when you find joy and gratitude in what you already have and the miracles that surround each and everyone of us. Being grateful for what you have will attract more things for you to be grateful for. This shift is unbelievably powerful and will help you to completely “Rewrite Your Life!” 

Are you feeling stuck and want to rewrite and empower your life? Stay tuned for more information on my, “Empower your Life Course.” Which will be launched this fall.